By Irene Conlan –
As we work on this issue of self esteem, it’s important to know what you believe. I don’t mean what your parents told you that you had to believe, or a teacher, or – anybody. What do you believe? About what? About everything! Your belief system serves as the foundation for what you think, do say and how you feel and react to life around you and how you perceive yourself. You may have examined and formulated your beliefs and they line up with what your parents taught you—fantastic! Thank God for great parents. The point is that you examined them and made a decision one way or another—to accept or reject.
If, for example, you believe in a loving God who gave you free will and expects you to make decisions about your own life you will make a different set of decisions than you would make about yourself if you believe in an all powerful, vengeful God who punishes at a whim and creates obstacles all along your path to trick you. If you don’t believe in God at all, you make decisions from still a different viewpoint.
If you believe the purpose of life on this planet is to suffer, you will react differently than if you believe that life is meant to be lived in joy.
If you believe that since you came from a tiny town in Mississippi or Idaho or Arizona or a farm in Ohio that you can’t make a difference you will react differently than if you believe you can have as great an impact for good (or bad) as someone from New York, Chicago, Los Angeles, London, or Paris.
If you believe your work is important you will go about it differently than if you believe it doesn’t matter. (And tell me about a job that doesn’t matter—they all matter somehow).
If you believe you don’t have any influence on anything or anyone, you will react differently than if you understand and accept the concept of “oneness” and know that everything you think, say or do impacts us all.
And, as Billy Joel sings, “And so it goes”
When you “fine tune” your belief system, you will most likely discover that many of your self esteem issues have been resolved and you just need to do a bit of tweaking here and there and then daily work like you need to do in a garden—you just have to keep pulling those weeds.
This is not an easy task but one that just keeps bursting with rewards. It takes time, patience with yourself—and others—reflection, meditation and a lot of revision of the revisions. As your consciousness expands it requires more reflection, meditation and revision. An on and on— “And so it goes. ..”
Your life matters. It’s up to you to decide just how you show up in the world.
Self Esteem Feeds
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